Love Always Find a Way:Getting married is one on the wish list of every woman not even sure if it will happen or not. By the time they reached at the age they wish to get married some did happen just like fairy tale and some have nightmares. Some have fairytale, grand wedding occasions, well blessed with parents, family and friends, famous and controversial. While the one with nightmares might be the unlucky one’s in this world, some are called martyrs, quitters, runaways or ended up in the hospital as battered wife. Some just stick with the relationship for the sake of the children. Some women and guys just spend their life being single just keep going on whatever will be will be. Way back years before, marriage is a sacred thing couples are not allowed to have pre-marital sex before the wedding day. Parents have different rituals from the church down to the reception place which usually in the house or restaurant. The rituals is done for good luck and good health for newly wed’s future. Beliefs, Tradition and culture is always observed. But nowadays, anything can happen before marriage or some don’t even get married but they get along with each other. It looks like marriage nowadays were quite complicated; everyone has different stories before they found it each other, some come from a worst situation and every relationship has different stories not even think how and why people do it. Maybe for one reason, in the name of love or lust? Getting married is the best thing to ever happen in anyone’s life, if you find the right person and it’s like in hell when you got the wrong one.
My marriage was my destiny, not even think I would still marry because I was already on my late 30’s. It started at my office work way back 2006. I was browsing different kinds of flowers when I saw a cherry blossom flower which I was attracted to it. When I searched for it I landed on the page of a cherry blossoms dating website. I did read and registered on the site but I was skeptical about it. After I log out don’t even bother of it anymore since I was not interested to get marry because of my age. Six months later, When I was trying to cancel my account I did browsed few profiles until I landed to a page on this guy named Jeff. I felt so strange on him, read everything and why he wants to get married. Normally, everything starts in friendship until it goes beyond friendship. We chatted, exchanging emails, call once or twice a month on everything we like to talked about. Likes and dislikes, dreams and plans for the future. Since then, my life has a new page where everyday is always exciting. It changes the way how I feel, my emotions from just like a boring ordinary daily routine. getting nervous every time I think of him. One day, I realized he proposed a marriage when I told my office mates about him everyone was shocked just like: are you drunk?? I know they were kidding on me as they thought I was just joking; but it’s true ” I am getting married..” period.! So finally, he visited me for 21 days it seems like one day is not enough to talked more about anything from all the places we went to, taking pictures here and there which we made 421 photos. Dining and shopping here and there. It was such an experienced never thought of I will have it. His favorite one was on the beach resort where his father was assigned as a US navy way back world war 2. We stayed 4 days on the island, we did island hopping, scuba diving; he was really fascinated with the island.
After 21 days together, everything was planned that I will follow him. I’ve waited nine months for the processing of the papers. My Boss was even surprised of my resignation to get married. We started our life together as the year 2008 came in. Our life together at first was really hard and troublesome. His mother is dying of cancer and his sisters and brothers almost don’t have time to visit her. I was adjusting with my new environment, the people around though I don’t have problem in speaking English language but the place was exactly the opposite of where I came from, The foods I was eating in my country as my snack is a meal in here. I got pregnant amidst my new environment were I am not already adjusted to it; but I ended in miscarriage where I nearly die. I was transferred to another hospital by air because the hospital in town where we live is not equipped to deal with my situation. After one week. I got out of hospital but my emotions inside the house is not good anymore. I wish I could go back but the decision I made has no u-turn. I did tried my best to fit in the kind of life my husband had. A week after I went out the hospital, we goes back to my doctor and she said: I could not have a baby anymore because I was high risk which I really cried; worst thing I ever heard in my life. Six months later, my mother-in law passed away at the same time I got pregnant again. We went to another obstetrician and checked everything on me and she said: I am on high risk because of my age. For nine months we were very careful on my pregnancy until one day I deliver a healthy baby boy and no complications at all. For now, my baby is already 8 months and we are both healthy and happy one family. I’ve got a good husband who truly love me and my baby. My life’s destiny.